Tuesday, February 9, 2010

Expectations and relationships

 Well,  one doesn't need to be a psychiatrist to speak about this right? Coz we all have been in one or other kinda relationship with others in the world.The one thing we all have in common in a relationship is having expectations on the other end or in the relationship itself. I have read good adage few days back, Always expect the unexpected from and woman and never expect anything from a man. But to be frank we all have one or other expectation on others. But the problem is we never understand the expectation of others on us until we see a strain in our relationships. How often do we emphatise with the other person? how often do we think them as much as our own? we often see people living happily amidst us and ask y not me? but  the question should have been why didn't i? The main problem is we often mix up expectations and responsibilities. I can expect my friends to do something. thats expectation  it may or may nt be possible. But my friend should save me  if iam dying thats responsibility of my friends. But if i or my friends confuses between these two then it leads to unpleasant situation.We often think we can turn back on any relationship friendship ,love,parents everyone. We say we live in information age where we can talk between Atlanta nd Andipatty but, At the same time we rejoice our sisters marraige on cd or worse. Is this where we want technology to take us to? connecting with people can never be the same as sharing the same bond between people. So if we are searching for a solution, we think why expect but we cant be in tat way. The right way is to understand the subtle nuances that exist and appreciate those differences else you wouldnt sustain any of the relationships.


  1. sounds confusin....

  2. I'll put it in simple sense. What i intend to say is if you can accept without any regret someone for what they are?(read as without any expectation from the person)Then your relationship will always be smooth but the catch is, If you expect others not to have any expectation from your side then its having expectation on your part(Mght be confusin bt still ponder over it..)so tat leads to taken for granted like pblms.. gettin thngs???

  3. Thats very true.. we r expecting from others that they shouldn't expect anything from us.. 100 per true in my case.. thanks bala for making me realise this..